Before you deal with any type of conflict, you always need to have a plan B in case things don’t work out.A plan B is the best alternative that you can come up without having to negotiate anything with your boss.Also, other people in your workplace might brand you as a whistleblower because of your actions.Try to discuss issues with your supervisor first and only go up the chain of command as a last resort.10. It is easy to criticize your superiors, but criticisms often lead towards resentment and hostile feelings.Going straight up the chain of command is not an effective way of dealing with a difficult supervisor because it only increases conflict in the workplace.Your immediate supervisor will consider this a very serious backstabbing maneuver and might seek some sort of retribution in the future against you and your career.Instead of waiting for their criticism, take a proactive approach and be absolutely clear from the very beginning on how your boss wants things to be done so that there is no miscommunication later on.
You don’t have to make your boss your friend or even like your boss as a person, but you do have to remain professional and get the job done and carry out their instructions dutifully as a subordinate, just as you would expect them to be professional as do their duties as a supervisor. Get opinions from other coworkers about your performance and see if there is any warrant to the criticisms of your supervisor before you criticize their opinions. It is often easy for a supervisor to ignore or attack one employee, but it becomes more difficult to attack all of his employees.
In this type of scenario, your best plan B would probably take the form of having an actual job offer in hand with another employer before you have your talk.
By not having a back-up plan, you have given your abusive boss even more leverage over you because they know you have no where else to go.
Tristan Loo is an experienced negotiator and an expert in conflict resolution.
He uses his law enforcement experience to train others in the prinicples of defusing conflict and reaching agreements.